Don’t you wish sometimes that you could close your eyes, make a wish to be 20 pounds lighter, and then open your eyes and find that your muffin top is gone or that your belt needs to be tighten a notch or two. Me too!
But it doesn’t work that way! There is no magical genie waiting to grant your deepest wish to lose weight and be healthy. Losing weight takes time, grit, and determination. And, oh yeah, a willingness and ability to change.
I believe the biggest obstacle for those struggling to lose weight is resistance to change.
The challenge is especially tricky because your resistance can be so subtle and nuanced that it is easy to miss. And you are left you scratching your head and wondering why this weight loss journey is so hard and so difficult.
If you are looking for direction as you begin your weight loss journey or accountability to help you keep going, please give us a call at 630-653-8152 to set up your complimentary, no obligation consultation.
What You Think
The journey is so difficult because of what happens to you when you resist change. When you are resisting change, you give away all of your power and energy to do things differently. Resisting change is hard work. It takes a lot of energy. It is an exhausting battle!
Think about what that energy could do for you if it was invested in helping you achieve your weight loss, fitness, and health goals. You could change what the scale says and how your body looks! You could change your life!
Here are some clues that might suggest you are resisting change.
- You insist that you will not give up the very foods and beverages that you know are the cause of your weight gain.
- You’re convinced there is no time to plan meals and get to the grocery store for fresh fruits and vegetables. The schedule is so overbooked, you’ll work on it when the timing is better.
- You are certain that your body does not like exercise.
- You know that your nutrition is just fine, never mind that the scale shows you are gaining weight.
- Your problem is that you are lazy.
- You don’t like to sweat, that’s why you don’t exercise.
- Your travel schedule is crazy, there is no way to eat healthy and to exercise regularly.
- You are too tired to cook a healthy meal, go to the gym, or take a walk.
- You are afraid you won’t have any friends if you are eating healthy and exercising all of the time. Who would want to go out with you?
- Your family won’t eat healthy meals.
What You Feel
If you see yourself in the list above, take a look at what your mind tells you to do to lose weight and be healthy. Then compare that to what your feelings are about YOUR exercise and nutrition. How do you feel about getting yourself to the gym regularly? How excited are you about planning and shopping for healthy meals? Do you have the energy to create new exercise and nutrition habits?
What You Do
And finally, look at what your behaviors or habits are. Do you really want to lose weight but right now you are spending more and more time at work or taking care of your family? Is it easier to overbook your schedule, then to face your fears about whether you have what it takes to lose weight? Do you go out with friends regularly for Friday happy hour and “treat” yourself to weekend eating sprees? How about that routine of hitting fast food when your day gets busy even though you know you would be better off skipping it?
When what you think, what you feel, and what you do are aligned and heading toward the same goal, your success in losing weight and being healthy is a matter of “when” and not a question of “if.”
Asking yourself these questions and honestly answering them will help you identify where your are resisting change. Then what?
Commit to making a change, one small thing at a time
If you want to work on your own, start small and work slowly. Identify one small thing you are willing and able to do. And then practice that for at least two weeks. It could be a new thought, a new belief, or a new healthy habit.
If you feel resistance to the small step, make it even smaller. The goal here is to create an opening to change that over time can expand. Once you have mastered your first step, practice another for two weeks. Only one thing at a time.
Another option is to find a program that offers structure, support, and guidance. The program could be online or in person. Weight Watchers and TOPS (take off pounds sensibly) are two examples. At Strand Fitness, we have an online nutrition program that is created by Precision Nutrition. This program is available to our personal training clients. And we also offer it to individuals who are not working with us in the studio.
If you believe working with someone for extra guidance and accountability, a third option is to find a professional who specializes in weight loss. Personal trainers, doctors, wellness or health coaches are resources who can help you identify your areas of resistance, brainstorm ideas, and tailor a solution that works for you. Working with a professional also creates accountability for taking action.